Not Knowing

How comfortable are you not knowing?
There’s tremendous power and uncertainty, if you’ll allow it to materialize.
This week we’re Off Balance On Purpose in Lawrenceville, Georgia. I’ve just finished a successful,
immersive, year-long commitment, and many have asked, “What’s next for you
Dan?” The answer: I’m not quite sure. I mean, I have projects, work and desires.
But the next “big thing” is not yet clear. And I’m okay with that. Not knowing, is not often celebrated.
When presented options we’re supposed to pick one. When facing a question, the
fastest answer wins. And people follow leaders with certainty, right? Well in my
experience, that’s not the whole truth. People follow leaders who are authentic,
even when that means admitting they’re still figuring it out. When you’re unconfident and feel you
must choose, it puts you in a position of weakness – unconfident guessing.
However, when you reveal that you don’t yet know, you’re actually in a position of
strength. You embody confidence, providing that you also convey your principles and
commitment, to finding the answer. I’m not saying to stall, or obstruct, but if
your intuition doesn’t match your options, it’s okay to keep asking. Maybe you need
better questions, rather than a quick answer. Those who can hang with not
knowing, resisting urgency, often get better answers the first time. Instead of being unsure, frame it this way:
you are curiously expecting, rather than having to choose the right answer. Expect
that it will become revealed when you operate from a place of authentic and
open examination, rather than a desire to prove yourself. This week identify at least one breakthrough
question for which you don’t have the answer. And then, get
comfortable not knowing until you do. Until next week, stay Off Balance On Purpose.

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