Imaginary Friends | Parasocial Relationships


Easily one of my favorite fictional books
is Paper Towns by John Green. I read it at a pivotal moment in my life and
it really opened my eyes to the fact that we’re not just characters in each other’s
stories. We all like to think of ourselves as the protagonist. But everyone else isn’t just an extra in
our story, they also think they’re the protagonist in their own story and they have their own
motivations for doing things. And even though deep down we know that, we
still like to attribute their motivations to us. They’re doing that just to spite me, they’re
wearing that because they know I like that color. No, in fact they probably weren’t thinking
about you at all. This sounds intuitive, but it took that book
for me to realize I had been doing that for most of my life. You guys aren’t here for me… well okay
you’re here for this video r- you guys don’t exist just for… can we just roll the new
intro please? Leading up to your teenage years, you developed
egocentrism. It’s a normal part of adolescence, if you
remember your Piaget, it occurs during the formal operation stage, when you finally develop
abstract thinking. You typically grow out of it, but some people
hold onto it well into adulthood. During that time, you think you’re the center
of the universe and that all of your novel, abstract thoughts are unique, you’re the
first person to ever think them. You haven’t quite developed your theory
of mind yet either. Meaning that you don’t have the ability
to figure out what other people are thinking or the concept that other people have their
own motivations, everything is still about you. And everyone else is also thinking that exact
same thing. But during this stage of development, you
likely had what is called a Personal Fable, a story you told yourself about how special
and unique you are. It can range from rather mild to laughably
supernatural. Maybe you’re a pop star who hasn’t been
discovered yet or a scientist who hasn’t reached their potential, nobody is taking
you seriously yet, but you’re destined for great things. Or, maybe, you’re Peter Parker or some other
superhero with special powers, but during the day you’re just a normal high school
student, nobody knows your secret. This is different from a delusion, because
deep down you know it’s not true, but you allow yourself to indulge in the fantasy – at
least in your own head. If you were ever asked by a therapist or even
a friend, you’d of course deny it. But the very next day while you’re walking
through the halls at school, you’ll be thinking about how one day you’re going to save the
world… and nobody knows it yet. While it may be a little embarrassing, it’s
a completely normal part of development. The stories vary by gender and culture, but
there are three subtypes of or aspects to Personal Fables. They all blend into each other, you likely
had elements of all three mixed in. The first subtype is omnipotence, since everything
you’re currently learning and experiencing is new to you, and you’re still incapable
of thinking of others complexly, you think you’re the first and only person to know
that thing. And really, what teenager doesn’t think
they’re the smartest person in the world or at least, smarter than their parents. Next is invulnerability, again this isn’t
a delusion, deep down you know that bullets can hurt you. But you can totally do a backflip off that
roof. It’s thought that this aspect of the Personal
Fable feeds into the risk-taking behavior that is so often seen in teenagers, especially
boys. You kind of have to take risks to learn your
own capabilities and limitations. And lastly, uniqueness, what teenager doesn’t
think that they’re special, and they’re the only one who likes Britney Spears as much
as they do, or Star Wars or Harry Potter or whatever the kids are into these days. And when they’re sad, nobody has ever been
this sad before – this is the most devastating thing ever and you just wouldn’t understand! We do understand, we’ve all been a teenager
before and, outside of a few extreme circumstances, we’ve all experienced loss and sadness. That said, this is your first time experiencing
it, so of course it feels unique to you. But because you feel omnipotent and invulnerable
and unique, you are the hero of your own story, so naturally, everyone else is watching you. Again, this isn’t a delusion, you know they
aren’t really… but they might be. This is called the Imaginary Audience, when
you somewhat believe that you are the center of attention and that everyone is listening
to every word you’re saying, cares about what you’re wearing, and can totally tell
that you’re sweating just a little too much. This isn’t true, and you’ve probably heard
this before – but every single person is thinking the exact same thing. Like Personal Fables, Imaginary Audiences
are a normal part of adolescent development. Having an Imaginary Audience helps you construct
your social image and helps you maintain cultural and societal norms. Thinking that people are watching you helps
you fit in. Now obviously, your friends or people you’re
talking to are realistically watching you, but everyone in school or people at the park? No… and deep down you know that. But if you legitimately think they are, you’re
suffering from a delusion. There are some people who legitimately believe
they are the star of a reality show, they are being watched, and everyone around them
are just actors or extras. You probably know this as the Truman Show
Delusion or simply the Truman Syndrome. It went by a number of different names like
Persecutory or Grandiose Delusions, but the reality show aspect makes it unique, because
it didn’t really exist until the movie came out in 1998. It’s almost like they took what they saw
on TV, incorporated it into their Personal Fable and Imaginary Audience, and turned it
into a delusion. If you haven’t seen the movie, Truman has
had his entire life, since birth, broadcast to the entire world as a 24/7 reality show. You get that from the trailer, it really isn’t
a spoiler. But several times during the movie, we get
to see the perspective of audience members around the world. People who know every intimate detail about
Truman’s life, they basically think of him like a friend or family member, and yet Truman
has no idea who they are… in fact he doesn’t even know they exist. This is called a Parasocial Relationship. This is when you have a somewhat meaningful
connection to a celebrity, sports team, fictional character, or social media personality, that
isn’t reciprocal. It’s one-sided, you’re the only one who
is really aware of that relationship. You might remember when they used to dye their
hair or what their pet’s name was, maybe you like the same movies as them and you follow
them on social media… maybe one day you make a video about BIRGing where you talk
about them at length. Ha! You thought I was talking about me and you,
didn’t you? But while we’re on the topic of me and you,
there’s actually quite a lot of you now… I can’t even picture that many people in
my head. That’s more than the entire population of
Iceland. And it was just sort of an abstract number
on my screen until I started getting messages from you and even starting meeting a few of
you at conventions. The first person to come up to me was wearing
a light up tie, I’m sorry I don’t remember your name, but I’ll never forget the tie. So now you guys aren’t just a number, you’re
real to me. So now that I’ve been on both sides of parasocial
relationships, I thought I might offer a different perspective. Let me start by saying there’s nothing inherently
wrong with parasocial relationships. I still have parasocial relationships with
youtubers I haven’t met – and even some that I have – it’s completely normal these
days. But you do have to keep a few things in mind. While you may have been watching someone for
months or even years, when you walk up to them and say hello, that’s the start of
the interaction in their mind. You’ve known who they are forever, they
just met you. So if you start asking about intimate details
of their lives that they haven’t personally brought up yet, it can be a little disorienting. They’ll probably realize that you heard
it in a video, but still. If you’ve ever been working somewhere and
a customer comes up to you and calls you by your first name, and you’re like “how
did you know my name? Oh it’s on my name tag…” It’s kind of like that. Similarly, you may have just watched that
video the other day and want to ask them about it, but for them, they filmed that years ago. So there’s a bit of a time distortion and
information imbalance in the relationship. They’re also not your lawyer, or accountant,
or therapist, and while you may think of them as a friend you’ve had forever, they just
met you. So if you start asking them for life advice,
you might come off a bit strong from their perspective. Think of your first date, if you unload all
of your problems right out of the gate, you’re going to scare them off. And that’s the natural issue with parasocial
relationships, it’s been one-sided up until this moment. Now, I enjoy reading all of your messages
and comments and tweets, I may not be able to respond to them all, but I still enjoy
my side of the parasocial relationship. I can’t help you with all of your problems
though, I have plenty of my own to deal with. And I’m more than happy to meet you and
have a chat – at the appropriate time and place. Speaking of, I’ll be at Vidcon London and
Vidcon US this year. But I’m not a vlogger, I don’t invite
you into my home… okay well… this is my actual living room, this isn’t a set or
anything. In fact, I basically sit right in this spot
whenever I’m playing Fallout 76, or Red Dead, or Smash… or whatever the kids are
playing these days. The point is, I have boundaries. I don’t tell you about my day or invite
you into my daily life, I’m an education channel, and almost all of you seem to respect
that, which is great… I don’t want or need any stalkers. Stalking is what happens when a parasocial
relationship goes wrong, but what if your Imaginary Audience has malicious intent? You end up with another delusion known as
Gang Stalking. Gang Stalking is when you feel your neighbors,
coworkers, and even random people on the street, are all secretly watching you and even trying
to kill you or destroy your credibility. There are no documented cases of that actually
happening, it’s basically just in movies. Gang Stalking is specifically the delusion
that it’s happening and studies done on self-identified “targeted individuals”
have shown them all to be delusional. Unless the psychologists were also in on it,
I guess. In her book, How to Deal with and Defeat Gang
Stalkers, the author lists several ways to tell if you’re being gang stalked. Pay attention and see if any of these apply
to you. You notice that your things are not in the
same place you left them. Neighbors making extra noise, seemingly on
purpose. Frequent appliance or electronic malfunctions. Airplanes flying over the place you stay at
timed intervals. People turn on their headlights everywhere
you go, especially parking lots. Frequent car repairs. Staged car accidents along frequently traveled
routes. Hopefully you can see why this is typically
classified as a bit of a narcissistic delusion, there are fairly rational explanations for
all of those events. And I’m willing to bet most of you have
experienced these regularly, but don’t think anyone is out to get you. But there is a section that a lot of rational
people do buy into. The sense that you are being watched and followed
everywhere you go. People around you pay attention and listen
to everything you do and say. You have a sense that there is no privacy
in anything you do. You feel that those around you have access
to your communications. You’ve probably seen videos of people testing
out whether Google or Facebook are listening to you to serve you ads based on what you’ve
been saying in random conversations. They aren’t, there’s a rational explanation
for that too. It’s called the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon,
when you start paying attention to a thing, and then start seeing it everywhere – whether
it’s ads for cat food or even something like the Wilhelm Scream. It’s always been there, you’re just looking
for it now. She wrote this book because she claims to
be a victim of Gang Stalking, and she specifically says it’s very unlikely that the CIA or
FBI is wasting resources to stalk you. So who was gang stalking her? Google? Facebook? Who would spend the time and effort to hack
into her computer and delete the first drafts of this book? The Milwaukee School of Engineering… with
a student population of 2600… I’m not kidding. In fact, it’s quite likely that if she ever
sees this video, she’ll think that I was paid by the Milwaukee School of Engineering… I wasn’t. This video was brought to you by CuriosityStream. A subscription streaming service that offers
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also be supporting the channel when you do. As he eluded to, the internet is an amazing
tool, but it has also amplified some of the less healthy aspects of our psychology. Back in the day, if you thought people were
watching you, that’s basically where it ended. But now, you can get online and find entire
communities of people who also think they’re the victims of some grand conspiracy, which
only fuels the delusion. And thanks to social media, our Imaginary
Audiences aren’t necessarily imaginary anymore and it’s completely changed our relationship
to celebrities. A parasocial relationship feels as real to
you as any of your IRL friendships, you get the same rush when a celebrity you follow
actually responds to you. And if they block you or delete their Twitter,
you go through a Parasocial Breakup, which is just as emotionally devastating as a real
one. So maybe take a step back and reevaluate your
relationship with the internet before you go looking up someone’s wikifeet page, because
now, you know better. Hey look, new outro card! I’d like to give a shout out to my newest
legendary patron Alexander, if you’d like to add your name to this list of parasocial
relationships, had on over to patreon.com/knowingbetter. Don’t forget to gang stalk me by clicking
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100 Comments

  1. Tibees

    January 20, 2019 at 11:31 pm

    Another sign of gang stalking that I didn't read out…
    You start recording some audio for your friend's YouTube video and then both of your neighbours decide to start mowing their lawn 👀

  2. orangutangu the orange lover

    July 30, 2019 at 4:39 pm

    Hah im 12 and i dont think that im so special

    Wait?

  3. Jaleel Sobers

    July 31, 2019 at 10:02 pm

    Donald Trump suffers from this

  4. Pete the Paper Boat

    August 2, 2019 at 3:29 pm

    10:41

    ha! That one did not age well!

  5. Helena Rosno

    August 4, 2019 at 4:04 am

    I like to think that to most beautiful thing will never be captured. The first sound has never been recorded. There’s someone somewhere in the world thinking/feeling the same stuff as me. My best friend is out there and I may or may not ever meet them but they do exist.
    I can’t tell if these thoughts are happy or sad but I enjoy them either way💚

  6. The black goat of the woods

    August 4, 2019 at 9:48 am

    Its true….
    When others comment on your comment its not so big.
    When the channelowner comment you feel… Wow…. He/She liked what I said…. Cool!
    One time a Youtuber used my comment in a video as a topic and "food for thoughts"….
    I was like…..
    "Damn Im on Youtube!!!"

  7. Life is Soup

    August 7, 2019 at 3:44 am

    Wow! This made me realize how incredibly awkward I would be if known at a higher level.

  8. Alex Carbone

    August 7, 2019 at 6:43 am

    "This video is brought to you by the Milwaukee School of Engineering"

  9. Jeff of the West

    August 8, 2019 at 7:10 am

    Isn't using the term gang stalking usually used by schizophrenics.

  10. Waltonmg TV

    August 9, 2019 at 11:11 pm

    I noticed the Wilhelm scream before you mentioned it

  11. Le Epic

    August 10, 2019 at 11:42 am

    You know more about me than me and I don't like that.

  12. Alex Hodge

    August 12, 2019 at 8:20 pm

    My name being Alexander, I thought it was funny when I watched this whole video about this phenomenon, and then at the end, he says his latest patron is Alexander. Hehe, talk about irony. I'm not being watched, right? Right? Right?!

  13. David Aguilar

    August 13, 2019 at 6:02 pm

    Filming all your videos from your bed makes you come off as a lonely rant. Get a soap box to stand on at least

  14. jbird976

    August 15, 2019 at 12:04 pm

    Wait a second…what do you mean everything isnt about me?!

  15. Owen Westphal

    August 15, 2019 at 4:04 pm

    You just HAD to bring up wikifeet

  16. Randomly British

    August 16, 2019 at 11:14 pm

    But now we know that google, Apple and Amazon were listening the interior time!

  17. Interested Party

    August 17, 2019 at 1:12 am

    Lies!

    Everyone on the road during rush hour is out to make my commute miserable.

  18. Lord Sandwich

    August 18, 2019 at 2:07 am

    I think people who have left the Scientology movement might disagree with you on the whole "gang stalking" thing.

  19. Liam Mehle

    August 18, 2019 at 3:12 pm

    About the para-social relationships. Damn, you're right. Feel like I should've known that. Great video!

  20. Trintard

    August 20, 2019 at 7:14 am

    I make up my own personal fables as a high schooler but I've never thought about it in the way you described. I just think of my world in a comic book fantasy I yearn or wish was real.

  21. Aidan Woodford

    August 21, 2019 at 12:00 am

    I am the foil for the main character.

  22. Zeaxe

    August 21, 2019 at 11:24 am

    Facebook is most fucking certainly stalking what I say. There is literally no other explanation for why I was getting ads for things that I commonly buy/look up: plants, yo-yo shit, and ukulele shit. Then I rant at work and I suddenly get ads for finding a new job.

  23. Rev. Dave Moorman

    August 21, 2019 at 9:38 pm

    Excellent videos. Give it about 50 years, and the adolescent learns the NO ONE is watching, NO ONE cares. All external reinforcement is effectively meaningless. Actually, you, and only you, are responsible for the meaning of your life.

  24. michael mac

    August 22, 2019 at 7:20 am

    trust me they are listening to you just not for adds

  25. C K

    August 23, 2019 at 8:38 pm

    I just wanted to say the fact you have come so far and that you’re a vet is amazing. I’m so glad I found your channel. Bravo and you definitely belong here. ❤️👏

  26. Adam Conlon

    August 25, 2019 at 8:41 am

    I'm a teenager and the first half or so of this was just wow. A video has never made more sense. My personal fable is that i'm going to become a the best rock climber the world has ever seen and everyone is going to being amazed by my abilities. I know that isn't going to happen but a lot of people in my area make a decent living off of being a mountaineering/climbing guide, teacher or coach. So I believe that following this could lead to a decent income, or at least that's what I tell myself. Btw is it weird that a do and say things that no one's gonna see just in case someone is actually watching me? I mean jeez, I'm probably typing this for my imaginary audience. Why am I typing this, I'm gonna stop now.

  27. pool man

    August 26, 2019 at 4:27 am

    Were all gang stalkers and we know where you are

  28. Omega Wolf

    August 26, 2019 at 5:44 am

    Honestly sometimes I feel like people I don't like can somehow hear me when I talk shit about them but then I remember they're too lazy and stupid to actually bug my apartment or whatever.. * Still covers all my camera's with tape and avoids doing embarrassing things in front of electronics that could be bugged *
    * Dismissive laugh * I'm not paranoid!

  29. dgetzin

    August 26, 2019 at 5:56 am

    11:55 I used to live in Lima, and I really was convinced that it was one only social bean in my life. Now the internet is one too?

  30. Hyper Sans

    August 26, 2019 at 12:38 pm

    I have this same issue that I built my own invisible audience, even though I know flat out that it isn't real. I'm not burying it, and I wholly accept it, but that feeling just doesn't go away.

  31. Snowy

    August 27, 2019 at 5:16 pm

    No… paper towns sucked. Like super super sucked. It’s a plain fact that paper towns was a bad book. As someone who has read thousands of books. I can spot a bad one a mile away.
    Paper town is shit. Fact.

  32. Theo Smith

    August 29, 2019 at 2:26 am

    These developmental stages play out differently for people with autism, at least they did for me. I've always had to imagine people complexly, else I could never properly navigate any social interactions. I also never felt unique, omnipotent, or invulnerable. I did, however, feel acutely the "phantom audience" phenomenon and extreme personalization. I find that many many adults still deal with personalization issues and they should seek therapy.

  33. Tom Servo

    August 29, 2019 at 5:01 am

    Pink Floyd taught me , I'm just another brick in the wall, as a teen

  34. Abyssal

    August 29, 2019 at 6:56 am

    This is really depressing.

  35. Wayne Paul

    August 30, 2019 at 12:08 am

    I have the bader mahnhamp thing bad

  36. Adam Jones

    August 30, 2019 at 4:06 am

    As a 17 year old lad smoking a joint in a shed watching this first half is killing me lmao

  37. SpeciamDraws

    September 1, 2019 at 6:03 am

    so what do we think now after this video?

  38. Petros Markantonis

    September 1, 2019 at 4:50 pm

    Why do you play fallout 76… 😔

  39. Bodacious Geeball

    September 1, 2019 at 9:41 pm

    I kind of like the old intros that were skits instead of the animation

  40. Jan Jan

    September 3, 2019 at 5:05 am

    We need more introspective essays about ethics, power and responsibility when creating parasocial relationships to make money … like with YouTube stars but throughout most capitalist media history.

  41. Jack Daniel's in the lion's den

    September 5, 2019 at 2:34 am

    Sounds like something a gang stalker would say

  42. Jakeb Henry

    September 5, 2019 at 4:59 am

    9:18
    Trotsky in the Soviet convention 1925 colorized

  43. David Marvel

    September 5, 2019 at 12:54 pm

    Milwaukee School of engineering is using curiositystream to pay YouTubers to delegitimize the fact that they have been stalking me and a ton of other people for years. (This is a joke. It sucks that I have to say this but people don't get joke's)

  44. Akim Joocelyn

    September 5, 2019 at 9:01 pm

    wait what if you think everyone knows what you know

  45. Squidward's Testicles

    September 6, 2019 at 12:30 am

    Does anyone else feel like they never thought these things as a kid/teenager? I’m 17 now, and from as early as I can remember I knew everyone was the same and I wasn’t some special protagonist. I knew that pretty much every thought I could think was probably already thought by someone before me, and I remember trying to think of sentences or thoughts that no one would have thought before (they were usually extremely weird, and often random combinations of words), but I knew they still probably weren’t original. I don’t have a single memory of thinking other people’s decisions revolved around me, other than when it was extremely obvious, like them doing something to/for me. I do have the “imaginary audience” thing sometimes, but I think a lot of that is from social anxiety.

  46. Angel Castaneda

    September 7, 2019 at 2:11 am

    This genuinely freaked me out. I just moved into the Milwaukee School of Engineering and I hear this. Very spooky!

  47. Alexander Chippel

    September 8, 2019 at 3:16 am

    I don't think I'm the center of the universe, but I'm pretty confident that the little part of it I operate in is out to get me.

  48. Alexander Chippel

    September 8, 2019 at 3:24 am

    I think gang stalking is, or rather could, be real. I've been on the internet long enough to know that some people are way too enthusiastic to help others torment/seek vengeance on someone. It's not much of a stretch to say that someone could go onto a forum and look for people to help him/her harass someone whether it be online or in person.

    And I've seen it before. I found a now defunct forum about my town a while ago and say a thread where a man was trying to get locals to follow his ex-girlfriend because he wanted to know if she was seeing someone else, but didn't want to risk getting a PFA against him.

    My point is that a stopped clock is right twice a day and you never know when someone is unintentionally telling the truth.

  49. hazleslife

    September 8, 2019 at 6:00 pm

    I can’t wait until my personal fable goes away.

  50. Tony Cucinello

    September 8, 2019 at 10:12 pm

    This isn't the way I envisioned my Alma Mater getting finally getting shouted out on YouTube, but any publicity is good publicity I guess. For real though, I could see some of the people I went to school with doing something like that.

  51. Antisocial Engineering

    September 9, 2019 at 1:28 pm

    I watched my son die, my mother die. My father and ex wife are also dead. I've lost every cent I had trying to get a business going that aimed to help disadvantaged youth.
    I'm entitled to a pension for 21 years service to the Australian Army, but lost that due to poor advice and a technicality (or just not understanding the advice).

    I now live at the whim of an uncaring government and whatever social security they deem suitable.

    I reckon I hit rock bottom, heh, I've also had to put down two pet dogs at different times. I "live" with chronic, unresponsive depression, always have (wife left me due mainly to the depression, the resulting divorce is when I lost the pension). Even ECT doesn't help.

    The net result of all this? I've come to the conclusions that there are no such things as karma, good or evil, right or wrong. There is definitely no reason for anyone to believe in any "higher power" or god(s), there will be no afterlife or re-incarnation.

    But the most definitive conclusion I have reached, is that life's only purpose, for any organism on this planet, is to reproduce.
    And if the result of your reproduction can be, and in my case is taken away, it ceases to exist for no reason other than random chance, then ultimately……….
    There is no point

  52. undefined

    September 9, 2019 at 2:28 pm

    Just that you are paranoid, or have a narcissistic delusion, does not mean they are not after you. 😉

  53. Raymond Wolf

    September 9, 2019 at 9:18 pm

    I have a parasocial relationship with a diver on the us Olympic team

  54. Steve McQueen

    September 11, 2019 at 4:23 am

    Is this the right video to let you know that I love watching all of your stuff and that "the connection" was felt! I know you know what I mean! God, I hope all of my followers (this new term in social media does not help people with gang stalking syndrome) don't look at this and misunderstand me!

  55. pikamew

    September 12, 2019 at 9:16 pm

    Had someone call me by name at my drive thru once it felt creepy

  56. Macen Garrett

    September 13, 2019 at 12:14 pm

    AAaA aaaAa AaaAhHhhH H hHhhH! ! !!

  57. Birdsa Rentreal

    September 13, 2019 at 11:27 pm

    So you're saying I'm… not …special? :' ( But I'm the aspiring best musician in the world and/or next king of a large country by creating a nationalist movement in eastern Europe and snowballing it into other countries!!! Or something!

  58. HERPY DERPEDY

    September 14, 2019 at 11:51 pm

    In my mind I'm the op MC of my anime Series.
    Change my mind.

  59. Carissa Glassburn

    September 15, 2019 at 2:17 am

    You should cover "Others Have it Worse" syndrome.

  60. Laurence Mac Carthaigh

    September 16, 2019 at 4:21 pm

    Curiosity stream is gang stalking me

  61. Juan Sebastian Dueñas Salamanca

    September 17, 2019 at 3:45 am

    I search for baader meinhof on the internet expecting to see the phenomenon he described. Instead the results were about a German terrorist communist group. My previous search was about the cultural revolution in China and the rise. I don't know how to feel about it. Some part of me says I just experience the phenomenon in the most meta way the other says Google could had link that information based on my previous search.

  62. HungerGamesFan88

    September 19, 2019 at 3:59 am

    You feel like a dad

  63. The Nowak

    September 19, 2019 at 11:26 pm

    WOW! Wow, wow. So, I've just experienced an instance of the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon when in a point of your video where you're talking about the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon, because I googled this phenomenon, just right before watching this video, as I knew I'm experiencing it, I just couldn't remember the name.
    What is more interesting, the reason for me googling/experiencing the aforementioned phenomenon was another of your videos. I have been talking with somebody about the Just World Fallacy and right after explaining that to them, I proceeded with my original plan, from which I have been distracted by this discussion. The plan was to watch some of your videos, as I found about your channel yesterday and I found it very interesting and I planned to resume watching it today. The first video I clicked upon (after the discussion about Just World Fallacy) was 'Hitting Rock Bottom'.
    Life is so random…

  64. Keng Oei Quek

    September 20, 2019 at 6:35 am

    I enjoyed "The Fan" with Robert de Niro and Wesley Snipes in it

  65. Jack the Gestapo

    September 20, 2019 at 10:32 am

    Given that observable universe is centres around the observer, I can confidently say I’m the centre of the universe that I observed

  66. Zachary Windsor

    September 23, 2019 at 1:51 am

    I'm in my early twenties . . . I don't think I've ever been to egocentric. Or if I was, I was mild enough that I can't pinpoint a time where I felt really important.

  67. mad dog xaddom

    September 23, 2019 at 3:55 am

    My personal fable was a famous dirt bike rider

  68. Giga Shrig

    September 23, 2019 at 5:03 am

    I had a personal fable when I was like 6 but idk about during teenage years.

  69. 賴志偉

    September 23, 2019 at 9:17 am

    Social media blurs the lines of what you said. Everyone's a celebrity in his/her facebook page. Delusional is the social norm.

  70. Sammy Phanthong

    September 23, 2019 at 6:22 pm

    Love the ferrets

  71. pooplenepe

    September 24, 2019 at 12:10 am

    I dont remember ever having a personal fable…

  72. William Abbe

    September 24, 2019 at 1:37 am

    Please do a video on the hero archetype fable

  73. Lai Parco

    September 24, 2019 at 1:43 am

    1:49 that's what we call chuunibyou!

  74. jSlazer

    September 24, 2019 at 1:57 am

    You don't know how much this video made me happy. Someone's been pissing in my truck since last year and my mental health been going down hill. It only takes one act of random assholery to potentially ruin someone's life. You don't understand the amount of shit that has been going through my head for the last few months.
    I also owe you an apology since I had a manic freak out on one of your video's comment section a while back. I don't know if you'll read this or read my other comment, but thank you for covering this.

  75. Vult Libertas

    September 24, 2019 at 1:59 am

    The Milwaukee School of Engineering has its claws into everything these days, they cast a long shadow.

  76. Friday We Are Awesome

    September 24, 2019 at 6:29 am

    Still waiting for him to talk about imaginary friends… :/

  77. Milena Sovic

    September 24, 2019 at 6:55 pm

    Nikola Tesla likes this.

  78. RC-2527 Gamma

    September 25, 2019 at 12:13 pm

    Fallout 76 poster intensifies

  79. Drew W

    September 26, 2019 at 4:40 pm

    I appreciate this as a Psychology student. Your videos are great for people emerging into adulthood

  80. ResidentMilf

    September 26, 2019 at 4:45 pm

    I totally have a parasocial relationship with YouTuber Mikenactor.

  81. ResidentMilf

    September 26, 2019 at 4:52 pm

    Excellent example of Baader-Meinhof: whenever I buy a new car I start seeing the same make and model everywhere. The number of Dodge Caravans in my neighborhood isn't increasing, I'm just unconsciously looking for them.

  82. Pizza Sutra

    September 26, 2019 at 6:21 pm

    Did not expect that MSOE shoutout. Yay Milwaukee!

  83. JChadwell20

    September 26, 2019 at 7:23 pm

    I knew this was Tibees even before I saw the description!

  84. Emmbo

    September 26, 2019 at 8:34 pm

    Are you kidding?! Dude, I’m the freakin villain of everyone else’s story… hopefully I can get a redemption arc 😓

  85. Emmbo

    September 26, 2019 at 8:41 pm

    I’ve always felt like pictures of people are watching me or that the people who have wronged me watch over me in their dreams, like an astral projection. I know that none of that is real but I’ve always felt this way and I didn’t know why. I had chalked it up to my astounding (and often destructive) amount of confidence and ego but knowing that this is probably just a side effect of being a teenager is a real comfort, cause I don’t wanna be like this forever

  86. Squim

    September 28, 2019 at 1:54 pm

    Chomo Prag is running for president

  87. Squim

    September 28, 2019 at 1:57 pm

    You’re not entirely right about explaining google / facebook listening in on you

    They aren’t listening in, but frequently they don’t have to, they have enough data from you to correctly predict highly specific aspects of your life and send hypertargeted ads.

  88. SoulFire39

    September 28, 2019 at 4:08 pm

    I can say with all honesty that I have never thought of myself as invulnerable. It really helps to spend half your time as a teen in the hospital to dispel that notion. Okay, not LITERALLY half, but quite a lot. Any of you guys ever hear of a condition called "hydrocephalus"? It's fun…trust me. XD

  89. johnjohnson24

    September 28, 2019 at 10:08 pm

    But YOU are actually special & unique . . .

  90. JacobLZP

    September 29, 2019 at 3:42 am

    its math new zealanders

  91. elijahroxu

    September 30, 2019 at 2:15 am

    Gang Stalking is real. Google Christian Weston Chandler.

  92. Praise9t

    September 30, 2019 at 4:18 am

    It’s funny because I found your channel yesterday and developed a parasocial relationship with you unknowingly of it or what it even was.

  93. Brad Stephens

    September 30, 2019 at 1:33 pm

    Why don’t any of these seem to apply to me?

  94. Edward Romo

    September 30, 2019 at 3:09 pm

    3:22, I don’t care what you say, nobody is a interested in Mexican Drug Cartels than I am.

  95. Edward Romo

    September 30, 2019 at 3:28 pm

    Some connections to this video to the real world:

    3:32 That’s a reason why so many youths are vulnerable to joining gangs. I even remember reading a story about an ex-Latin King remembering when he was abused by his step dad feeling like he was the most mistreated person in the world and falling into the gang because they’re the only people who understood his pain.

    5:52 I remember having a para social relationship with this one girl I barley knew in class. I saw her briefly in a freshman class and talked a bit but that was that last time I had a class with her. I didn’t have the Para social relationship until after I had class. I would excessively look at her social media (she posted a lot so I always had a lot to look at) and even tried to DM or comment semi often on posts.

    Before I sound like a predator, this was at a personal time where I felt my friends were picking on me if I spent time with them at all and at various times I felt that my wasn’t achieving anything in school or athletics. But my Para social relationship in my mind help make me feel that I knew someone who was there and knew what I was feeling, even if it was a fantasy.

    I eventually started talking to the person in real life and started texting her occasionally but when I asked her out she would always make bs excuses. I took that extremely personal even though she hardly knew me so it would make sense why she would say no.

  96. Jacob Martínez

    September 30, 2019 at 4:11 pm

    Counts as egocentrism if in childhood someone tought the people around him were in a bad situation because of him? (Not friends but family members)

  97. Fukc Yuo

    October 1, 2019 at 1:53 am

    would you say chris chan has been gang stalked?

  98. Jakub Braun

    October 1, 2019 at 2:43 pm

    I have a funny personal experience with the Baader – Meinhoff Phenomenon, in short I realised it with new words I learned, (usualy more esoteric words that I didnt know like poingnat or abstruse or whatever) when I'd learn what a word means or just hear it in a YT video and google it and then I'd notice the same word a short time later somwere else. Now I know what it is called. I'd allways have a little smile about it and assume its because now I can recognise it better bc I know what it is.
    Funny.

  99. BrendanJ Rice

    October 1, 2019 at 7:07 pm

    “I always feel like somebodies watching meeeee”

  100. Foe Chicken

    October 2, 2019 at 12:19 am

    Not all of us think that way… Everyone isn't out to get you or please you…

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